Dear St. John’s,
This past Sunday, June 10, I used part of my sermon to reflect briefly on mental illness and suicide in the wake of the deaths by suicide of two celebrities. Because it resonated with many of you, I offer this adaptation of that message to you now. It includes suicide prevention resources. Please feel free to share this message with friends and loved ones whose lives have been affected by mental illness or suicide. Your support may help save a life and open a path toward healing.
In the Gospel reading for June 10 (Mark 3:20-35), Jesus makes a reference to an “eternal sin,” a “blasphemy against the Holy Spirit.” Over the past centuries, some parts of the church have used this passage to argue that the “eternal sin” in question is death by suicide. The church used this interpretation to claim that people who died by suicide were beyond God’s redemption. By doing this, the church caused irreparable harm. People who died by suicide were denied church funeral services and burials in consecrated ground alongside their loved ones. Mental illness and suicide were stigmatized as selfish, sinful weaknesses, as though people ought to be able to pray themselves well again. Countless people with mental illness suffered in silence as a result – as did their families.
Medically, socially, and theologically, we know better today.
To address the theological claim about the text of Mark 3:20-35, the “eternal sin” referenced by Jesus is the identification of God’s work as the work of Satan instead. In the text, the scribes witness Jesus casting out demons, yet they accuse him of doing this work because Jesus himself is possessed by a demon. Indeed, this is serious, but it has nothing to do with suicide. Additionally, the scriptures attest in several places (Psalm 139; Romans 8; Romans 3; etc.) that God knows us and loves us before we are born, through our lives, and after we die. Nothing can separate us from the love of God.
Neither mental illness nor suicide are sinful. Mental illnesses are diseases. They are not caused by a lack of faithfulness and they cannot be treated by prayer. As mental illnesses, depression and anxiety are so common that they are more like an ordinary cold than rare diseases. Just as an illness like pneumonia can be fatal without treatment, mental illnesses like depression and bipolar disorder can also become lethal if left untreated. When this happens – when someone dies by suicide – it is not sinful; it is not selfish; it is tragic, and God’s own heart grieves.
God created humans in God’s image, complete with creativity and curiosity, and we have made advances in science and medicine. Our understanding of mental health is still evolving, but today, life-saving treatment for mental illnesses is available. Some people benefit from therapy, some from medication, and some from a combination. A pastor, chaplain, or spiritual director can help a person in treatment for mental illness to integrate aspects of their faith life with their treatment, just as religious professionals are accustomed to supporting people’s medical treatment for other illnesses with spiritual reflection and prayer.
The risk of suicidal ideation (thinking about attempting suicide) increases following the deaths of other people by suicide, including well-known celebrities. If you are concerned about a friend, family member, or other loved one who may be thinking about suicide, you can help them with these five steps from the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline:
- Ask the person if they are thinking about suicide. It is a common misconception that asking someone about suicide increases their chances of making an attempt; in fact, the opposite is true. Ask the question plainly. Listen to them without judgment as they respond. Seek to understand their pain.
- Keep them safe. Ask the person if they have made a plan to attempt suicide. Inquire about the timeline and the method of their plan. Assess whether they have access to highly lethal methods like medications or firearms. If there is a definite plan with a specific timeline and easy access to means, the person is in imminent danger, and you might need to help them by driving them to the emergency room or calling the police.
- Be there, whether in person, on the phone, or online. Follow through with any offers of assistance you make. Help the person strategize about sources of help.
- Help them connect to support systems. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800-273-8255) is a good place to start. Counselors can also chat with people online at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/. You can help the person develop a safety plan by making a list of loved ones and professionals to contact when they are in crisis.
- Follow up. Check in with the person with messages of support by phone call, text, email, or in person. Studies show that feelings of connectedness help protect against suicide. Explore whether there are concrete ways for you to help, like taking the person to an appointment.
If you are thinking about suicide, help is available. Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at (800-273-8255). Their website, https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, also has resources for specific groups of people, including youth, veterans, loss and disaster survivors, survivors of previous suicide attempts, and members of the LGBTQ+ community. Finally, you can call me in an emergency at any time, day or night, if you need to talk.
Peace and blessings,
Pastor Linnéa Clark
This month, St. John’s is exploring the possibility of adding a prayground to our sanctuary to help us welcome families with young children. We hope these frequently asked questions will be helpful to you in reflecting on the possibility of a prayground at St. John’s.
What is a “prayground?” A prayground is a space in a church sanctuary for infants and toddlers to use during worship. Families can sit near it and participate in worship while children play, learn, and engage in the congregation’s worship in an age-appropriate way. A prayground lets young children wiggle, play, and worship God without having to leave the sanctuary.
Is it noisy? Praygrounds are carpeted and contain only soft toys, books, and coloring materials. Usually, praygrounds have little to no impact on other people’s hearing. Some congregations have found that their sanctuaries actually get quieter when children use the prayground.
Is it disrespectful for children to play during church? Not at all! God created children to learn about the world by playing. When they get older, children will learn how to worship God by sitting still, standing to sing, or kneeling quietly to pray like adults do, but before then, children can worship God with creative play, coloring, and reading.
Why do we need one? We have a nursery. Right now, our congregation loves and encourages children’s participation, but we need a way to support families with infants and toddlers. Using the nursery is sometimes necessary, but it requires children and adults to leave the service. By remaining in worship, children can easily participate in simple ways.
Do other churches have praygrounds? Yes, it is common for churches to have praygrounds. Several of our church neighbors have praygrounds, including Redemption Lutheran Church in Northeast Philadelphia and Trinity Lutheran Church in Fort Washington. You can contact their pastors if you’d like to learn more: firstname.lastname@example.org or email@example.com.
What would we need to do, and where would it be? We would need to remove a pew or half-pew, like we did to accommodate the wheelchair seating and the sound desk, and add an area rug. A pew would border the prayground to seat children’s families. We will listen to the preferences of families with young children and of people with hearing impairments when considering a location, but we think it would probably be near the middle or at the back of the sanctuary.
Our sanctuary is historic and beautiful. Would a prayground affect its beauty? We don’t think so. Praygrounds aren’t invisible, but because they are for children, they have a low profile. The toys could be removed for weddings or funerals. Finally, the sight of young children playing, worshiping, and learning about Jesus is beautiful, too.
Is this going to be expensive? No. We would need to buy some items to furnish the prayground, but we can also use some of the items currently in our nursery.
What if it doesn’t work? We would be able to make adjustments to the prayground if we found we needed more or less space, less noise, more seating, etc. – and we would be able to remove it and replace the pew if it didn’t work at all.
What is the shape of love?
Love is shaped like a singularity, infinitely small, from which all of time and space was born in an expanding whirl of heat and light. Suddenly, there was hydrogen; suddenly, helium; protons fusing in violent birth. Love is shaped like stars, coalesced into points of light, igniting the first elements of the universe and fusing them until they burn out. Love is shaped like brilliant death, the glorious explosion of a star flinging the contents of the periodic table across the universe. Nearly fourteen billion years after hydrogen, after helium, these same protons and neutrons and electrons dance in our bodies: they sigh in our lungs, they spark in our brains, they pulse in our blood.
What is the shape of love?
Love is shaped like star-flung elements combined into molecules combined into amino acids combined into endless wreaths of DNA, the gritty spiraled bits of our humanity twining through our cells. The authors of the Bible knew nothing of DNA but they understood that human bodies are no different from the material that comprises the rest of creation, so they used words like dust and dirt and mud to describe our creation. They tell us that God reached into the dusty, dirty mud and shaped the first human being with God’s own hands and named them descriptively: Adam, which means nothing more than “mud person.” Mud Person was no different from the mud around them. Mud Person’s essential humanness was not in their gender; it was not in their race; it was not in their language or creed, for they were one, undifferentiated, full of the spectrum of human potential. Mud Person’s essential humanness was the way they reflected God’s own image.
Thousands of years later, we tell the story differently, but it is the same. Our DNA is a wonder, but there is nothing that makes our matter different from the matter in the stars, the sky, the trees, the ground. Our humanity is not defined by gender; it is not defined by our skin colors and cultures; it is not in our languages or religious practices. It is defined by something else. There was never an Adam, a Mud Person, but collectively, we humans are shaped like the same adam. Our many appearances, our many genders, our many cultures, our many arts, our many sciences hold a mirror to the face of God.
What is the shape of love?
Love is shaped like a promise, a covenant. Love looks like God’s rainbow promise that love always triumphs over vengeance and frustration as it hangs over God’s ark-shaped promise of salvation upon the flood.
Love looks like God’s starry promise of parenthood to elderly and childless Sarah and Abraham, their offspring to be as many and varied as the stars glittering in the sky.
Love looks like God’s oceanic promise of rescue as refugee slaves flee the dehumanizing conditions of captivity through a dangerous ocean held apart, then slammed together as they scramble onto the far shore.
Love looks like God’s tablet-shaped promise to accompany God’s people with the gift of the law, of Torah, from Mount Sinai: not just a list of thou shalt and thou shalt not, this promise tells God’s people, because I love you, because you are mine, this law shall mark you as my own.
Love looks like the words of the prophets inked carefully onto scroll after scroll, unrolling to display the voice of God promising the exiled people that no matter how far they go from home and no matter how many times they turn away from God, God will always turn back to them.
What is the shape of love?
Love is shaped like ash: gritty and harsh, caustic when mixed with water, so rich and dark a black that it confounds the eye, with just a tiny bit of sparkle. Love is shaped like last year’s palms blazing gloriously for seconds before subsiding into beautiful darkness to be collected into a tiny bright bowl. It is shaped like what remains when the spark of life is gone: a tiny pinch of dark dust, a chemical compound more than a living thing, so insignificant that the smallest gust of air could scatter it beyond retrieving. Yet no part of the original is lost: not one bit. The cells that once were lush and green return to their component elements; they combust and rise invisibly with the heat, or they crumble and fall: but always, matter is conserved, and energy. Not one atom winks out of existence. Nothing is ever lost in ash.
Ash is transformation. Ash is potential realized, and spent, and made potential again. Ash is carbon, the leftovers of death, the building blocks of life, the love of God that never leaves us, the assurance that we will never be lost to God.
What is the shape of love?
On Ash Wednesday, and every day, love is cruciform. Love is shaped like the cross. Love is shaped like death.
Love is shaped like Jesus beginning his final walk to Jerusalem. Love is shaped like Jesus’ final meal shared tenderly among friends. Love is shaped like Jesus’ consent to be betrayed by a companion and arrested unjustly. Love is shaped like a painful walk to Golgotha, dragging a heavy wooden cross. Love is shaped like a tree, once living, turned into an instrument of death. Love is shaped like Jesus’ own gift of life, emptied on the cross for the sake of the whole world.
Love is not heart-shaped. In the end, it does not look like bouquets of roses or boxes of chocolate. Love is cruciform, and it gives itself completely so that we too may receive its gifts: hope, joy, forgiveness, freedom, justice, abundant life.
Today, this is the love we receive: love made out of dark carbon ash, the stuff of the cosmos, the stuff of our very being; love a reminder of all God’s promises, made to our ancestors and renewed in us today; love in the shape of the cross, the instrument of death transformed into eternal life.
August 20, 2017
St. John’s Lutheran Church
Melrose Park, PA
Big Questions: How do we hold onto our beliefs as the world changes around us? How do we overcome our own unfaithfulness?
This is the last sermon in this summer’s Big Questions series. It combines two related questions: How do we hold onto our beliefs as the world changes around us? and How do we overcome our own unfaithfulness?
There is plenty in the world to challenge our religious faith today.
Let’s start with the big picture. As we all know, our culture is growing increasingly secular, and going to church is no longer a cultural norm. Lest we think this is a new development, church or synagogue attendance and Sunday School participation have steadily declined since the 1950s; the church has just been slow to realize it. From mainline Protestantism to Catholicism to evangelical megachurches to our neighborhood synagogues, everyone is feeling the pinch.
In our predominantly secular context, we are asked to grapple with challenges large and small in a world full of change and crisis. Our moral frameworks have shifted significantly in the past several decades, and for the better: the women’s rights, civil rights, and gay rights movements have all showed us how much our prejudices injure the people around us, especially when we mistakenly believe that those prejudices are grounded in our religion. When religion hurts entire communities of people by ignoring their pain or by condemning them, from people of color to the LGBTQ community to women to the poor, it’s easy to lose faith in religion and even in God.
In the past nine days, the Christian faith we confess has been tested by the violent scenes of racism on the march in Charlottesville, VA. Members of the Klan marched openly. Neo-Nazis shouted the slogans of Nazi Germany right into the face of American diversity. Violence erupted around the protests.
The scenes in Charlottesville were shocking. To see neo-Nazis walking American streets barely seventy years after the Second World War was horrifying, and it made us ask if everything we know is falling apart. At the same time, people of color have reminded us that Charlottesville is only the open sore that indicates the deeper infection of racism and intolerance in our nation.
It’s not hard to say that hate is wrong. It is easy to be outraged by Nazis. Though important, it is no great effort to stand at a community candlelight vigil and sing This Land is Your Land. It is simple to look virtually anywhere in our scripture to see a God who is on the side of the poor and oppressed. It is even easy to declare that there is no moral equivalence between the violent words and actions of white supremacists and the counter-protesters standing against them.
What is difficult is looking beyond outrage to see the pervasiveness of the diseases of racism and intolerance. What is difficult is acknowledging that we might contribute to the problem, even when we try to be “nice” and “tolerant.” What is difficult is discerning what God is calling us to do at this moment, now that we’ve agreed that white supremacy is bad (a low moral bar to set).
Today’s gospel reading brings us a model of faith — an encounter between Jesus and a Canaanite woman. Canaanites and Jews shared some common religious ancestors, but by Jesus’ time, they were quite different from one another. Their religions were different, their cultures were different, and Canaanites occupied a lower social class. For a Canaanite woman to break the rules of gender and class and perhaps even race to call out to Jesus is shocking.
At first, Jesus says nothing to her. But the Canaanite woman persists. She knows that women’s voices, Canaanite voices, are likely to be ignored.
The disciples are annoyed and embarrassed. They want to send her away, but Jesus does not permit them to do so, and she will not stop. Bit by bit, she begins to wear Jesus down. Still, he resists.
“I wasn’t sent for your people,” he says.
“Help me, Lord,” she says, desperate and savvy, using Jesus’ title of honor even as he refuses her.
Next comes the most challenging part of the story. Jesus uses a brief metaphor to call the Canaanite woman a dog, and he doesn’t mean a pet golden retriever. It’s thinly disguised profanity.
And the woman, desperate for her daughter’s healing and resourceful enough to work with what she’s got, takes Jesus’ words and turns them right back around: even dogs get to eat right alongside the family as they sit under the table. They don’t have to wait for leftovers.
“Great is your faith!” exclaims Jesus, and the healing is already complete.
It’s hard for us to say for sure what’s happening in this story, but some of the possibilities are uncomfortable. Perhaps the whole scene was an object lesson for the disciples, but it may be that Jesus actually intended to ignore the Canaanite woman. (Imagine how many times a day someone asks him for healing.) Does Jesus discriminate against the woman because she is a Canaanite? Does he call her a dog because she is a Canaanite? Maybe. And that’s a difficult side of Jesus.
Nevertheless, the Canaanite woman persists — and she becomes an unexpected model of faithfulness. She is annoying. She is breaking gender and culture rules left and right. She won’t be quiet. She is resourceful, and she wears Jesus down.
It’s interesting that the Canaanite woman models a faith that Jesus’ disciples do not. Lutheran pastor and author Heidi Neumark points out that in this story, we are Jesus’ disciples, and the Cananaanite woman is anyone who is poor, marginalized, and in need of help. The disciples are as close as the story gets to institutional religion. They hear the woman asking for mercy, and their response is irritation: Send her away, for she keeps shouting after us. Neumark expands on their words. She writes:
Send her away. We’ve got other things to work on now.
Send her away. How dare she raise her voice at us?
After all we do to help others!
We’ve built houses with Habitat.
We’ve given food to the food pantry….
so don’t try to make us feel guilty. We’re his disciples!
Send her away, for she keeps shouting after us.
Does this sound familiar, like nice church people just trying to tick all the right boxes? It’s certainly tempting to act like the disciples instead of like Jesus. I wonder: what is the church saying to the Canaanite woman today, eight days after Charlottesville, one day after white supremacists walked in Boston?
Here’s what “nice” [white] Christians have been saying about her:
Send her away; we’re tired of talking about racism.
Send her away; we already rejected Nazis.
Send her away; race doesn’t matter.
Send her away; we’re north of the Mason-Dixon line,
and racism isn’t our fault.
Church, we can try to ignore her all we want, but the Canaanite woman is calling out from the streets of Charlottesville, of Boston, of Philadelphia. She is wearing Jesus down, and he is listening to her. She will not let him off the hook, and Jesus won’t let us off the hook, either. We want Jesus to tell us what nice allies we are; we want to hear that we are doing the right thing. We already addressed the problem and said discrimination is bad and then we sent the Canaanite woman away, because isn’t one sermon about racism enough, and haven’t we finished talking about this yet?
But Jesus is talking to her — not to us, to her! — and he is saying, “great is your faithfulness!” Not ours — hers.
It turns out that following Jesus is a lot more work than we expected. It pulls us farther outside our comfort zones than we want to venture. At this moment in history, following Jesus requires some serious reflection on what sustains racial bias in America besides Nazis and the Klan. We need to ask, how are we complicit? And then we need to get down to the work of reconciliation, peacemaking, and listening, because the Canaanite woman is crying for Jesus’ mercy all around us.
Let’s go back to our big questions about keeping our faith alive as our world changes around us. There are lessons about faith and faithfulness in this story. The Canaanite woman gives us a model of faith as an action, not a passive state of being. When we wonder how to keep our faith, we’re often tempted to stop going to church, to stop reading the Bible, or to stop engaging with religion. The Canaanite woman does the opposite. Maybe she doesn’t think Jesus will actually help her, but she also knows that her daughter is in need, so she petitions Jesus over and over. First, he is silent; then, he is insulting; but ultimately, he rewards her persistence as faith. If you are struggling with your faith, I encourage you to stay engaged. Ask hard questions; voice your doubts; worship with your siblings in Christ; talk about your struggles, because we’re all learning how to be church together.
Second, the Canaanite woman shows us an unexpected way that God is persistent with us. God helps us overcome what we call “unfaithfulness” by refusing to let us go. God uses the voices of people around us, even people we wouldn’t expect. “Have mercy!” says God. And if we keep ignoring God, God is willing to get downright annoying in order to get our attention. Even if we try to ignore God’s voice or hide from God’s call, God never gives up on us.
This week, if you get lost in the whirlwind of the 24-hour news cycle and it feels hard to find solid ground, try this exercise. Listen for the voice of the Canaanite woman. What does she look like? Is she African American? Latina? Gay? Gender-nonconforming? What is she saying? Is she hungry? Is she injured? Do her children need healing? Does her voice need amplifying? And finally, ask yourself: How can I join God’s work of healing and respond to her voice?
August 13, 2017
“How does God know our thoughts if we are just a collection of biological impulses?”
St. John’s Lutheran Church
Melrose Park, PA
May the words of my mouth and the meditations of all our hearts be acceptable in your sight, O God, for you are our rock and our redeemer. Amen.
I pray these words from Psalm 19 almost every time I preach. The prayer isn’t just for me. It’s for all of us. The prayer asks God to bless the words of the sermon and the thoughts, questions, reactions, and contemplations of the whole congregation as you engage with my words.
The sermon prayer about the words of my mouth and the meditations of all our hearts makes a big assumption about God: that God knows what we are thinking. In an era of government surveillance, in a time when Google targets its advertising based on the text of our emails, the idea that God knows our thoughts sounds alarming at first. Is nothing private?!
Today’s big question asks how God can know our thoughts. After all, we are just collections of biological systems: circulatory, respiratory, digestive, neurological. How can God know our thoughts if “thinking” is no more than electrical impulses firing between our brain cells?
During last week’s sermon, I talked about the way we think about truth in science — as something we can test and verify — versus the more ancient way we think about truth in scripture — not necessarily verifiable, but consistent with people’s real experiences of God. Science and religion answer two different questions about the world. Science tells us where we come from, how we got here, and where we are going. Religion tells us about our place in the grand scheme of things and gives us insight into our purpose: God loves us, and we belong to God. This week’s big question holds science and religion together in the same breath, which is a great insight on the part of the questioner! However, it is impossible for us to answer the question with any certainty. We can hypothesize that God exists in the gaps between our neurons, for example, but neither the Bible nor science will allow us to say for certain.
Biologically speaking, thought is the domain of the nervous system, which consists of the brain, the spinal cord, and peripheral nerves. The nervous system controls the things we don’t need to think about, things like breathing, digesting, and circulating blood. It also controls the things we do think about: running a marathon, eating an elegant meal with the correct silverware, reading books, and interpreting what everything means. The nervous system communicates via beautiful cells called neurons, which exchange electrical impulses and neurotransmitters across tiny gaps called synapses.
For thousands of years, human beings in Jewish and Christian traditions have believed that God knows our thoughts. One of my favorite psalms is Psalm 139, in which the psalmist describes the experience of being known completely by God:
O Lord, you have searched me and known me.
You know when I sit down and when I rise up;
you discern my thoughts from far away.
You search out my path and my lying down,
and are acquainted with all my ways.
Even before a word is on my tongue,
O Lord, you know it completely.
You hem me in, behind and before,
and lay your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me;
it is so high that I cannot attain it.
The psalmist describes the feeling of being hemmed in because God is everywhere. But there is comfort and freedom in being known so completely by God. As the psalmist writes later, God knows us even before we are born, and no power that can remove us from God’s presence.
Although the Bible portrays God as all-knowing, God is not Big Brother. God may know our thoughts, but we can still choose whether to give them voice. Psalm 32 describes the painful experience of trying to conceal sin from God and finding relief in the act of confession:
While I kept silence, my body wasted away
through my groaning all day long.
For day and night your hand was heavy upon me;
my strength was dried up as by the heat of summer.
Then I acknowledged my sin to you,
and I did not hide my iniquity;
I said, ‘I will confess my transgressions to the Lord’,
and you forgave the guilt of my sin.
Relief comes when sin is spoken and God’s forgiveness is assured. The act of confession matters even though God knows our thoughts. This is why we confess our sins when we gather for worship on Sunday: we need the relief and healing that we receive when we name our sins and hear the good news of God’s forgiveness.
In the gospels, Jesus possesses uncanny knowledge of the people around him but is selective about how he reveals it. At the Last Supper, for example, Jesus knows that Judas has already betrayed him to the authorities. Jesus hints at the betrayal, but he chooses not to expose Judas; instead, he lets the meal of love unfold naturally, and even Judas is included.
When Jesus does disclose his knowledge of other people’s thoughts, it is for a purpose. In the gospel of John, Jesus encounters a Samaritan woman at a well and engages her in conversation. Jesus reveals his true self to her with a gentle reminder of her complicated personal history. The woman understands that Jesus really is the living water to quench all thirst.
The eighth chapter of Paul’s letter to the Romans gives us one more bit of insight into God’s knowledge of our minds. Paul writes:
Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we ought, but that very Spirit intercedes with sighs too deep for words. And God, who searches the heart, knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God.
Most of us have known a time when it felt impossible to pray. Paul writes that the Holy Spirit still knows what is on our hearts and communicates our concerns to God, even when we cannot give voice to them ourselves. It is a relief and a gift that talking with God does not depend on our own ability to put the correct words together: God stays in conversation with us even when we have no vocabulary, only wordless need.
So what does it mean for us that somehow, by some mysterious means, God knows our thoughts?
First, since God knows our thoughts, none of our concerns or prayers are ever lost to God, even when we don’t know the right words to say. Moreover, communication with God is not limited to people who can speak verbally. People of all ages, abilities, and developmental stages can talk to God, from pre-verbal babies to non-verbal adults with autism to people enduring the gradual losses of ALS to people in the last stages of dementia. Thanks be to God for that.
Second, since God knows our thoughts, we are not off the hook when we hurt other people or think damaging and discriminatory thoughts, even if we never say them out loud. But God leaves space for us to confess our sin and to ask for God’s help in leading lives of wholeness and healing. God gives us the opportunity to reflect, to seek transformation, and to receive forgiveness.
May the words of our mouths and the meditations of our hearts be transformed in your sight, O God, our rock and our redeemer.
 Psalm 139:1-6
 Psalm 32:3-5
 Romans 8:26-27